What's the Big Deal With Intentional Parenting?
As a midlife mama, intentional parenting is a perfect fit for me. I spent close to twenty years as an attorney and my moves were honed to focus on the end game. So if some jerk lawyer deserved to be punched in the throat, I tried to figure out the best way to get to my long term goals. Throat punch was not likely the way. I adapted to find a better way.
And then I applied all this experience to parenting. No throat punching allowed. So, intentional parenting became my jam.
Here at The Midlife Mamas, I share tips that I've learned from years of intentional parenting. I'll also share with you the how's and why's of what made my tips work for our family as well as actionable steps that you can take to make them work for you as well.
For me, intentional parenting is about the end game. It helps me keep our long-term goals in mind daily - even during the toughest of moments.
It helps me to not lose my sh*t when, frankly, I sort of want to. It gives me a framework to lean on when I feel myself wanting to yell or snark. It provides a way of parenting that helps me feel stronger than I think I really am.
Our "goals" are actually a mirror reflection of our family's most important values. These are the ideas that are so important to us that we want our boys to live by these values no matter what:
- prioritize true joy for themselves and those around them (and to not mistake happiness for joy) over more typical measures of success;
- be grateful for their highly sensitive nature and to understand the gifts and challenges that come with it;
- nurture and share their innate curiosity through books, spending time outdoors, and enjoying lots of analog activities that appeal to their deep feelings of gratitude, joy, and satisfaction so that they will live a life time finding wonder in everything they see; and to
- be respectful of those they encounter.
I'm not a doctor or a child or family therapist, I'm just a mom. I'm a mom who sometimes wants to lose my sh*t.
And I'm also a mom who knows that losing my sh*t doesn't help anyone; it doesn't make for a happy or peaceful home that feels joyful to us. Remember, if mama ain't happy...
And so in the end I'm a mom who knows that my boys deserve so much more than me losing it every day. And I'm a mom who's found a way of parenting that helps me be better. It helps me inch closer to the mom I want to be for my boys and the mom I know my boys deserve.
If any of this feels like something you want for your family, you've found the right place and you'll be able to find exactly what you need here!
Any time you're here, check out the "My Kids" tab in the blue stripe at the top of the site. That is where you will find all things intentional parenting.
I keep an ever-growing exclusive library of printables that are always free for subscribers. I created this library for you to offer you tips, check-lists, and cheat sheets that provide super simple references to things that are super actionable - you can do them and get results right away!
- Starting Tough Conversations About Race.
- Say this...Not that.
- How To Recognize Potentially Deadly Food Allergies
- And More!
Browse My Most Popular Tips To Parent Intentionally
My biggest intentional parenting challenge is keeping my emotions in check, especially when my strong willed child is going haywire over something...
I always have my end game in mind, and I love simple, actionable, one-word tips or tricks that move me in that direction. I'm quirky that way. So if you are quirky that way too - check these out!
Here you will find tons of "parenting quick wins." These are my tips that can be summed up in one actionable word or phrase. That keeps it simple and memorable!
Read these posts and you will take away an actionable word or phrase so that you can get results right away!
If you'd love to learn actionable words & phrases to help you be a more intentional parent, I’ve created a FREE email series just for you!
As intentional parents, we believe that the one thing that children want and need more than anything else is our time and our attention. And we believe that we can best provide that by being present and intentional in our interactions with them.
If this is something you believe and want in your life too, then join me!
In this free series, I'll share with you some of my favorite, super actionable, words, phrases, and strategies for intentionally parenting through tough situations like:
- mom burn out;
- boredom (theirs...not yours);
- reinforcing a strong sense of worth; and
- nurturing curiosity in many ways.
CLICK the image if you're ready to start today!
Intentional Parenting Tips For Highly Sensitive Children
Another reason intentional parenting has been such a great fit for me is that it naturally meshes with the highly sensitive nature of both of my boys.
Here you will find inspiration from my personal stories as well as actionable tips to navigate the prickly world of heightened sensitivity. Much of this inspiration will apply to you or your child if you've ever thought of your child as:
- overly sensitive
- takes things too personally
- picky about many things
- intellectually gifted
- deep thinker
- emotionally reactive
- take criticism very harshly
- considers every possible outcome before making a decision
If one or more of those descriptions resonates with you, much of what you find in these posts will prove helpful for you!
Spending time, being really present, and creating consistent routines are all ways of connecting that really resonate with highly sensitive kids.
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And my favorite mail is from YOU! (not even kidding...)
If you CLICK on the envelope icon, you can let me know what are you celebrating and what sucks. Because I bet it isn't only you. Let me know and I'll write it for you!
Intentional Parenting Tips For Nurturing Curiosity
I know I'm sharing a lot with you here on this page. Hang with me, it's worth it. Go get another latte. Or glass of wine. I'll wait.
Remember when I said that intentional parenting means that I always have my end game in mind?
One of the most effective ways that I know, every day, to move toward our end game of joy, gratitude, and respect for our boys is to foster their natural curiosity.
Some of the most effective and fun ways to stay curious throughout life are to observe, to read, and to create.
So here is where you will find all of my favorite tips to foster curiosity in children (ok, adults too) by observing, reading, and creating.
I hope they will help you reach your end game too!